If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18 NIV).
Don’t hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody. Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it” (Romans 12:18 The Message).
The first time I read this verse, I thought it was an impossible pursuit. Then recently, I was faced with a disappointing situation, and I remembered it. It is challenging living in our fallen world—especially these days of insecurity of all sorts where people have become more selfish than selfless. Insecurity makes some to act secure but they hurt others in order to feel good about themselves. Yet God is calling us to be selfless and seek peace with others. Despite the state of our world, the Apostle Paul sees the believers as being capable of pursuing peace with others. What an honour! However, “humility comes before honour” (Proverbs 18:12). Living at peace with others requires humility, and that is a challenge to most people—even believers. Yet it pleases God when we live in humility as far as it depends on us.
Does it really depend on us?
Firstly, we have the power . . . “Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you (Luke 10:19). We have been equipped to think, choose, act and therefore determine the outcome of a situation. Often times, we relate to the divine power given us with doing warfare in prayer. However, humility, forgiveness or kindness are lethal weapons of warfare too which are founded on the character of Christ. There is immense power here, which does not need the usual ‘binding’ and ‘loosing’ that we are accustomed to. This kind attracts peace and disarms the enemy. May be you’re wondering how you can please everybody. You cannot—and God does not expect you to. In fact, we will have enemies; otherwise why did David, a man after God’s heart cry to God saying . . . “There are more people who hate me for no reason than the hairs on my head (Psalm 69:4). If you’re doing the right thing, you will wake up opposition even from the unexpected and that is disappointing. However, in order to stay focused, we must pursue peace in our hearts by letting go of the disappointment. Moreover, when we are not at peace with others, we cannot have peace with God, because it is for reconciliation that Jesus died. And we do not want to lose fellowship with God for whatever reasons. There is peace to know that we are at peace with God and man, if that depends on us.
Peace is a virtue that determines the quality of our lives and relationships. Jesus said, “I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So do not be troubled or afraid” (John 14:27). Godly peace produces joy even in difficult situations, and we cannot experience it if we are at war with others or ourselves. Being at peace with someone does not mean that we agree with his or her behaviour. It means that our peace is extremely significant, and we will go to extra lengths to preserve or pursue it. Pursuing peace is a hard task but its attainment is pleasurable.
Dear Jesus, You are the Prince of Peace. Help me to pursue peace with others, so that I could keep your gift of peace in my heart and mind. Amen